I'm on Longreads! It's not about adoption, but I think you'll get a good laugh.

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Hi Adoption-Land,

I'm still here. I've been writing offline, honing my voice, becoming a stronger writer so that I can write an adoption memoir that honors Lily. I hope to contribute to the growing conversation on adoption and am thrilled to see new voices emerging that present the often untold stories (for instance, Nicole Chung's memoir, All You Can Ever Know).

I stopped blogging for several reasons. But now I understand why this story is so hard for me to write: it is the story of two silenced voices: both Lily's and my child-self. The memoir I hope to complete will examine how my own trauma history intersects with the complicated, uncertain, and unethical adoption story we experienced. 

Sometimes, when I'm trying to work on this very difficult and heavy material, I require humorous diversions. I recently wrote a humor essay and today, it got published on Longreads.

Since all of you were my very first readers, I want to share it with you. I hope you'll get a good laugh. I'm still here. It's going to take me awhile to complete my adoption memoir, but I'm improving as a writer and getting braver. It took me a long time to even submit anything for publication. I'm thrilled to have my first publication in Longreads.

Last year, on December 16th, 2017, Lily's 6th birthday, I wanted to post my annual birthday note. But on that day, I attended my sister-in-law's baby shower and one of my cousins delivered her fourth child, a girl, after three boys. I wanted to be celebratory for these new babies coming into our family. I avoided Lily's birthday.

I hope she enjoyed a beautiful day. In less than two weeks, she'll turn seven. Unbelievable.

I hope you all are doing well. Thank you for reading. 

Happy Holidays!

Much love to all,

Here's a link to my essay on Longreads. As you'll see, Tom's real name is actually Tomer!

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