tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post4135624426668223205..comments2021-03-15T14:29:06.488-04:00Comments on "Where's Baby Lily, Mommy?": # 38: HELLO DEREALIZATION, MY OLD FRIEND...by Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12620656009462393047noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post-90828718425026975712012-07-22T00:57:37.521-04:002012-07-22T00:57:37.521-04:00Kellie--
Honestly, I struggle with understanding ...Kellie--<br /><br />Honestly, I struggle with understanding the SW's behavior as well. I think because I also have a social work background (although not in adoption), I blindly trusted her opinion for the most part. <br />I am not sure whether she is truly unethical like the attorney, or just a product of working in an already flawed and biased system. <br />I hope to think the latter.<br />Now--after having gone through this experience--I doubt I would feel intimidated to really push a woman to think through her adoption plan, etc. BUT...that is irrelevant bc I would not choose to pursue adoption again. I thought we would be doing something good--giving a needy child a home, etc. etc.--and the reality of the situation certainly did not match up with the adoption fantasy I had. <br />I'm not saying that all adoptions are bad--but I doubt many of them are ethical. <br />I am sorry for your situation.<br />We all learn too late. It's part of the human condition I suppose. <br />Thanks for reading.<br />Best,<br />JenniferJenniferhttp://www.abortedadoption.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post-59571619758821917232012-07-21T22:56:39.061-04:002012-07-21T22:56:39.061-04:00Jennifer,
I'm curious about the fact that the ...Jennifer,<br />I'm curious about the fact that the social worker told you not to say anything about telling Kendra that she could keep the baby. I understand about respecting her decision, but I don't understand not giving her encouragement. Is this a "no-no" or something? <br />I know I've went out of my way to tell people to really research and consider what they were doing to themselves and their child if I know someone planning to relinquish. No one felt the need to do it for my daughter or us, and the pregnancy resource center had no ethical issues with telling her she wasn't good enough for her child. I don't understand the social workers reasoning.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07165737918653065179noreply@blogger.com