tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post6522018889385373519..comments2021-03-15T14:29:06.488-04:00Comments on "Where's Baby Lily, Mommy?": # 24: HAVE YOU HEARD OF THE PUTATIVE FATHER REGISTRY?by Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12620656009462393047noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post-64915362003132943942012-07-05T13:13:53.595-04:002012-07-05T13:13:53.595-04:00Samantha,
I don't know the details of your sit...Samantha,<br />I don't know the details of your situation--but I will say this: After our experience, I definitely think that adoption workers say things to PAPS to try and get them to fight against biological families. They will use coercive strategies not only with natural families, but also with PAPs. Sounds like you are going through some tough times...will check to see if you have a blog.<br />Best,<br />JenniferJenniferhttp://www.abortedadoption.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post-74226898735743911722012-07-03T19:51:07.238-04:002012-07-03T19:51:07.238-04:00I wonder if this is what the SW in our case is doi...I wonder if this is what the SW in our case is doing to the foster parents of my step-daugher? It's so weird because we have had 5 SW's over the course of nearly 2 years and this last one is when the foster parents decided to get a lawyer to fight us regaining custody. NOTE: We had absolutely nothing to do with the child going into CPS care.Samantha Phttp://www.facebook.com/groups/121713731180015/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post-3613940545771296612012-04-24T00:02:02.132-04:002012-04-24T00:02:02.132-04:00Hi Carlynne,
Thanks for reading and I am so sorry ...Hi Carlynne,<br />Thanks for reading and I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I think your perception is right on about the social worker. In fact, it was only after I began processing what happened (through writing this blog), that I experienced a sudden epiphany regarding the social worker. This happened exactly after I finished writing the post entitled "What's in a Gift?" At the risk of sounding paranoid, I do believe we were "Good-Copped/Bad-Copped" by the social worker/attorney. I was very naive. As I write the story, I see exactly what you identified in this post.<br />I have had one subsequent contact with the SW since starting the blog (and after realizing she was not so great). The story of that communication will be told in this story, but I will just say now, that she ultimately infuriated me. But, I am trying to tell the story from where I was (emotionally & psychologically) at each point.<br />Obviously, the story is too complicated to tell in this single comment (hence, why I'm writing the blog), but I now see how I was "coached" and in some ways even "coerced" by the adoption workers. I am, no surprise, back in therapy. <br />I worry about "Kendra" all the time too. As well as Baby Lily and her two brothers.Jenniferhttp://www.abortedadoption.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post-57518737653982737222012-04-23T21:36:19.572-04:002012-04-23T21:36:19.572-04:00I know you feel trusting of your social worker but...I know you feel trusting of your social worker but I just had to comment on this.<br /><br />"I know this is all very dramatic and overwhelming," Paula agreed. "But this is just how adoption is. Biological families are dysfunctional and they tend to act out all over the place. <br /><br />This is such a HUGE generalization. Biological families are dysfunctional? I have to object to this stereotype. Dysfunctional families happen in all walks of life including adoptive families. I lost my daughter to adoption because I was single yet the couple who adopted her divorced when she was only 3 yrs old and her adoptive mother never remarried. She was raised by a single mother. I married a year after I lost my daughter and I've been married for 30 years. If I had been able to keep my daughter she would have been raised with her natural mother, step-father and both her siblings. I lost my daughter because I was single yet she was raised by a single mother because of divorce.Carlynne Hershberger, CPSAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365785230628216814noreply@blogger.com