tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post8598918880111377492..comments2021-03-15T14:29:06.488-04:00Comments on "Where's Baby Lily, Mommy?": # 63: ON BECOMING A PUPPET or THE SCRIPT FOR CHATTING WITH YOUR BABY'S BIRTHMOTHER... by Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12620656009462393047noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post-13091802505533272602013-03-24T08:53:26.502-04:002013-03-24T08:53:26.502-04:00This post has driven home the realization of how t...This post has driven home the realization of how the industry is so entwined in the deal. The level of input/direction that they tell APs what to say, what to do, it just infuriates me to realize that there never was any chance if this turning out any differently than it has. Our family cut off indefinitely.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post-82445824013949471702013-01-24T15:25:59.811-05:002013-01-24T15:25:59.811-05:00This:
"The adoption mythology will torment y...This:<br /><br />"The adoption mythology will torment your intellect; there will be no logical way out. Instead, it will melt around your brain, forming a hard stubborn surface, not unlike a helmet, adamant on keeping you from bleeding out the truth when it comes to adoption."<br /><br />Wow. Just... yeah.<br /><br />For me, that helmet formed before I even gave birth. The helmet cracked shortly before reunion which ripped the helmet off and the bleeding was indeed profuse. Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post-18691191275632801472013-01-23T16:01:38.140-05:002013-01-23T16:01:38.140-05:00Even before Amber was eventually literally wrenche...Even before Amber was eventually literally wrenched from arms, I was voicing the fact I wanted to raise her... It was made very clear to me: Adoption meant I was a good mother who loved her baby and only wanted her best; keeping her was selfish and meant I was a bad mother and would destroy her life ( not sure how given I was a great Nanny by then) and she would hate me (unlike all the other kids I had taken care of). If I wasn't pregnant, isolated and feeling under attack, I think I would have worked out how much of a contradiction they were saying but by then I was effectively brainwashed enough not to question... Until she was born and then that is when all the real drama started and the rest as they say is history. My daughters adopters however didn't give a toss about me or even Amber as became evident. Female adopter had greed all through her eyes... It was gross to witness and they outright treated me as an incubator and had no problems lying to me to get what they wanted. <br />Looking forward to the next instalment... You had/have a conscience which so many don't. This must have been so difficult and yet that made you the best adoptive mother for Lily as you cared for her natural mother as well, something so absent in many adoption stories where our existence only serves as a hindrance and an annoyance.Mysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425550479815459790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post-57174048594904310132013-01-23T14:29:29.027-05:002013-01-23T14:29:29.027-05:00Those same social workers will say that a child wi...Those same social workers will say that a child will be irreparably harmed if moved from the adoptive family, yet children are resilient if they want that child moved!lucrezaborgiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12301770958254113165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7725137789250152370.post-1750974759039842802013-01-23T14:09:48.843-05:002013-01-23T14:09:48.843-05:00Before I relinquished my child, I was a brave stro...Before I relinquished my child, I was a brave strong thoughtful mother who wanted the best for her child. <br /><br />Now that I have terminated my parental rights, I am someone that my child should not have to know. I am someone she may just despise some day because I "gave her away". <br /><br />Yes, how quickly the perception of the strong selfless birthmother changes.LisaAnnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06436140358037471855noreply@blogger.com