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This adoption attorney was obviously not well versed in the laws of man. Otherwise, she'd know that men, as a rule, especially married ones, cannot multi-task. I couldn't just call my husband, interrupt an important business meeting, and tell him out of nowhere that we could have a baby in less than 3 weeks!
I couldn't call him immediately. I was having flashbacks of past calls during business trips.
Me: Tom, it's me. Oh my God. Oh my God. Oh my God.
Him: I'm in Germany right now, really important meeting, I'll call you back later.
Me: No! Wait! Oh my God. Planes! Two planes hit The Twin Towers!
Him: I have to go now.
Me: Don't hang up! Oh my God! Oh my God! The towers are falling down! The Twin Towers are falling down!
Him: I'll call you later.
Me: No! We're under attack! The Pentagon was hit too! Oh my God!
Him: Gotta go. Love you. Bye.
There were other times too. Like when he was at a trade show in Atlantic City and I called to tell him I was pregnant again (14 years since our first was born). Or the time I was lost for 5 hours, at night, in a very dangerous part of NJ.
Tom does not even hear me during work meetings. He doesn't do it on purpose. Listening, to me, for him, is beyond his conscious control. I trigger his sympathetic nervous system--the system responsible for enabling the release of adrenaline, etc. in times of stress. Some people have a fight response. Tom has a flight response. Simple as that. I don't even take it personally anymore.